My Worst War Memory

WARNING  This content may be upsetting or triggering to some.  WARNING

This week, while on orders at Ft. Jackson, South Carolina, I ran into a long-time army buddy. It was good to catch up with him while having dinner and a couple of beers. We reminisced and talked about the people we served with together, shared stories of what’s going on in our careers now, and had a couple good laughs. Most of my army memories are good. Most of my deployment memories are good, even if only because I try to remember the good ones. Most of the not-so-good memories can still be made into an amusing, funny story. But not all of them.

Not long ago I did some online forums where people could ask me questions about a topic I would post. One reader asked me what was my worst memory was from war. For a moment, I wasn’t sure. I don’t spend a lot of time dwelling on the worst memories, so I had to think about it. And as discussed in a previous blog, I have memories that are hidden. One of which, not my worst, was discovered during a therapy session with my psychiatrist. And once I remembered it, it was back. My mind had hidden it for two years until my therapist walked me through it.

But my worst memory from being deployed happened while I was in Iraq (2008-09). I went a number of years with that memory tucked away, hidden from my consciousness. And I didn’t even know it. It surfaced a few years ago, hung around for a while, then was gone again. I think it’s been more than three years since I thought about it. Now it’s back. This is something I’ve only shared with very few, and even then, I generally only tell the main part of the story.

I was at Camp Bucca, Iraq. My chaplain and I were responsible for about a thousand Soldiers that fell under our battalion. The two of us went to the hospital to visit a Soldier that had been seriously injured in a motor pool accident. The Soldier was soon to be transported to Germany, then back to the States, I think to San Antonio to get specialized treatment and start rehabilitation. I never made it to the room with the chaplain to visit the wounded Soldier.

The bay-style room we walked through that would lead to a private room with the motor pool Soldier had three beds in it. In each of those beds was a child. Each child had been severely burned over their whole body. The chaplain and I both paused and inquired about the children. Their ages were approximately between four and nine years old. It was the most unexpected thing I’ve seen. I got the story from the medical staff that had accepted the children into the hospital due to the severity of their injuries.

Their father was dead. He was trying to steal fuel, propane I think, according to my memory of the story I was told, and the whole tank somehow exploded. Why he had his three little girls with him to steal fuel, I will never know. But the explosion killed him and engulfed the children in flames. They were brought to our hospital for treatment. They were almost completely wrapped in gauze, only parts of their faces showing. Only the oldest spoke while the other two whined and cried. I think the oldest was trying to comfort the other two. They couldn’t see each other, only hear the sounds of pain and anguish that filled that small part of the room.

After a couple of minutes with the staff, the chaplain was ready to move on to the injured motor pool Soldier. I couldn’t do it. I had to leave. I told the chaplain I would be out back, that he could come get me when he was done with the Soldier. I found my way to an exit, then I sat on the steps and cried. The reality and gravity of three children laying there, burned, crying, scared, barely alive– it got to me. It got to me in a way nothing else previously had in life. That includes losing a child one day after birth.

I could see that memory every time I closed my eyes, from that night on, for about two years. Then, it was gone. I forgot about it. It would reappear every 2-3 years, depress me, horrify me in my sleep, then hide again. Well, it’s back. This is probably the most details I have ever shared about this memory. I’m hoping that sharing it this way will help. I don’t remember ever talking to any psychiatrist or counselor about it. It must have been pretty well hidden since my psychiatrist last year was able to get the memory of a wrong turn in Kabul, Afghanistan to resurface, but the burned children never came up.

In preparation for this post, I reached out to a friend of mine that I served with in Iraq, Joseph Galvan. He told me that the event of the three burned children was one of his worst three memories he has of war. Being a medic, he was regularly exposed to more pain and suffering than most. He was on staff at our hospital on Camp Bucca during the time the children were there. I asked him if he would give a quote for this week’s blog about his experience there during that time. Just as I remember him during deployment, he didn’t fail to produce when called upon now. Here is what he had to say:

“As horrible as having three severely burned children was, the worst was after. The MRO (Medical Regulating Organization), who was the theater medical operations hub, ordered that we no longer accept any critically injured local national patients. The girls were in our ICU for about four months and we only had 5 ICU beds.

“’Try and imagine what that must have been like for our medics. Locals bringing their severely ill and injured to us, having heard that the Americans took care of children that were near death, only to be turned away. The begging, pleading, and crying they had to witness.”



My friend and hero, Joseph Galvan.

Galvan went on to say, “I can still hear them scream from their wounds being cleaned; there’s only so much morphine you can give a child and it’s not enough. That’s why I’d always bring my guitar to work. I knew the schedule for their wound care and I’d play for the kids after, while the nurses washed their hair. It got to be a routine. I’d even do it on my days off. The smell of burning hair and children crying or screaming in legitimate pain fucks with me pretty hard. And the burn patient smell…that sickly sweet, but acrid smell…I can’t do it.”

Maybe his sharing this with me will help him in some way. He told me earlier this week, “I just realized that I’ve never told anyone about that. The folks that were there (in the ward, on shift) knew, but I’ve never talked about it.” Joseph Galvan is a hero. His heart for those children makes him a hero to me.

This is why it’s harder to come home from war than it is to go. The memories never leave. Never. They may hide for a while, but they always come back.

Thank you for reading this week. Good day, God bless. And a special God bless to our military medics.


20 thoughts on “My Worst War Memory

  1. I still hate the smell of burned flesh and hair form my time in the rehab center here. And children with respiratory problems in the Hospital. But I loved my job and helping them get well.

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  2. Dave and Joe, thank you serving and thank you for sharing.
    I realize how painful it can be to dredge up old hidden memories, even in the hopes they could freed our subconscious and not tromp in our nightmares again.
    Wishing both of you blessings of peace.

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  3. Dave, I was the operations officer at the Hospital (and worked with Galvan during our pre-deployment stage. This is the first I’ve heard of the stealing part of the story. As I know it, he was smoking and an amber from his cigarette fell in and ignited. Also burned was the wife as she tried to put out the flames. Luckily, only her hands wear burned (although greatly burned). This is only one of the burn patient stories from our 2008-2009 deployment. We also had a lady that was with us for over ten months and was burned over 70% of her body with 3rd degree burns. She, happily, walked out after her recovery. 115th CSH did a lot of good while there and I think helped improve how Iraqis view Americans because of it.

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    • You guys did an awesome job. And I’m not sure why I remember being told the man was stealing. Everytime the memory comes up, that is part of it. Thank you for doing what you did over there. You touch a lot of lives in your job.


  4. It seems that things that are hideous come back to haunt our memories – but things that are hideous and involve children, the most innocent of creations, they kick the worst. You have some awesome strength – thankyou for sharing this with us. I hope you find some peace in it all.
    All my love to you Dave ❤

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  5. I remember those kids. I remember dressing changes, central line changes, holding their little hands and knowing that no matter what I did, or any of us did, they were going to die, and we weren’t allowed to let them go.
    I remember riding in the FLA out to the gates to turn away subsequent burn victims- giving what Morphine I had on me and then watching the trucks drive away, the wounded bouncing around in the back and the smell of burned skin on my sleeves. The utter hopelessness and rage I felt at being forced to abandon my oath, and the guilt I feel to this day for not fighting harder against the people making such inhumane decisions.
    You’re not alone. You guys were the best team and I was blessed to be a part of it.

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  7. First, I’d like to give Thanks to you for your Service and all you had to endure. I, too, have some bad memories of Vietnam serving aboard a US Navy Destroyer. You & I have seen things that most people never will see. My War was Vietnam. Yours was Iraq. Years ago, I had some “flash backs” of what I saw, but I’ve not had them in a long time. Time heals.

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