My middle son got married last weekend, the first of six. I should probably clarify. LOL. He’s the first of six siblings to get married, not the first of him getting married six times. That would be bad. My ex-wife and I had a daughter, then 3 boys in a row, then twin girls. They’re all adults now, for the most part. The twins will officially be adults next year upon graduating high school. They are all wonderful, beautiful human beings. But this is Nick’s time to shine, so let me brag on my boy and his new bride.
He’s smart. He’s funny. He has an entrepreneurial spirit and a heart of gold. He’s one of the most loving and genuine people you would ever meet. He’s a problem-solver with a calming demeaner. Trustworthy, honest, kind, dependable. He’s everything and more that I could have ever hoped for him at this point in his life. I really can’t put into words how proud I am of my boy.
He married his high school sweetheart. She is positively an awesome individual with a beautiful smile. She’s the loud one, you can hear her laugh coming a mile away and it makes you want to smile. She doesn’t know a stranger, as far as I’ve seen, and will befriend anyone she meets. She’s very excitable and will go in a million different directions during a single conversation. To say the least, she is very entertaining. They are a perfect match. They balance each other out nicely. I love them both dearly.
To be completely honest, in the months leading up to the blessed nuptials, I asked them numerous times if they really thought they were ready. Partly because I’m the dad and want to make sure and partly because I’m older and wiser and had my doubts. I asked because I love and care for them. It’s not that I doubted their love for each other, there is no question there at all. It’s just the world we live in. It’s hard and unforgiving. And they are young, not financially secure in any sense of the concept, and don’t have the jobs that will provide for a spectacular future. That sounds vaguely familiar. Oh, that’s how my ex and I started out and we were married for 26 years and did very well for the most part providing for 6 kids. I think that’s how most young couples start out; young, dumb, naïve, indestructible, and completely unaware of what the world has in store for them. But they assured me they were ready.
It was a nice ceremony. Short, sweet, and to the point. There was a little humor and a lot of love. I was impressed with the vows they each wrote. Very touching. There was a best man and a maid of honor, that’s all. Nothing flashy or extravagant. No tuxedos, no flower girls, no live music. The reception was “catered” by local fast food restaurants. The whole event was low-key and easy. I like it. I think it shows that these two youngsters are just fine with not having a fancy lifestyle right away and can stay in a budget. It’s exactly how they wanted it and I think it was awesome.
To my son and new daughter, I love you. I’m proud of you. Great things lie ahead for you both. Not that I ever give the best advice, but let me leave you with some wisdom, learned from experience. Stay focused. Stay faithful. Be honest. Be giving. Be forgiving. Be understanding. Be clear. Spend wisely. Save what you can. Invest for your future. Not just monetarily, but invest in each other and in life. Be humble. Be charitable. Stay close to God. Take things in stride. Nothing is ever the end of the world and if something is too good to be true, it probably is. So, be smart, the world is already planning on how to take advantage of you. Most importantly, as I’ve said to you many times, be a decent human being, clean up after yourself, and make good decisions.
I love you both.